Recently over lunch G & I were discussing what it is about beautiful people that can be relatively lame. We were discussing how few beautiful women are also intelligent, brilliant & warm-hearted. Rather, many of them are vacuous creatures without much to say and with a clear expectation of entitlement. (One friend once said ”The stunning ones are the worst in bed because they expect you to do everything…that’s what they’re used to!”)

I have a theory that I shared then and which I will share with you…

For the most part (& I acknowledge this is a generalization), there are two groups of beautiful people:
(1) The Always Beautiful (born & grew up beautiful); and,
(2) Those Later Beautifuls.

For the Always Beautiful, their characters are formed differently; they possess a different ‘map’ of identity. The one thing we can not deny is that this world is ruled by beauty; for the Always Beautiful, they are generally handed more. They don’t have to struggle as much and are treated quite differently from an early age.

Think of the prettiest girl in your high school. Chances are, she was the most popular and the most liked.

Now think of the nicest girl in your high school. Chances are, she was the smartest and kindest.

Usually, the Always Beautiful peek in high school & university. It’s all down-hill from there. Their characters are built around their physical appearance and once that starts to slip or change or is not as perfect as it once was, their dependency has nowhere to rest. That they come from a place of physical privilege contributes to a weakness of character.

The Later Beautifuls may have been a little awkward in high school, a little geeky in university, a little shy during their first outing into the world of employment. With time and confidence these people morphed into exquisite looking creatures.

For the most part, they have had to work a little bit harder to reach their goals; they’ve had to expend a little more energy in getting that job offer, in finding a boyfriend / girlfriend, in getting your attention in high school, etc.

Their strength of character lies not in their beauty, but their beauty stems from their strength of character. Few of them exist, but when one is found, make sure to hold on to her / him, ‘cus they’re a keeper.

All of the above is written with a clear understanding that humans can not be compartmentalised…unless, of course, you’re of the Hollywood persuasion.

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