Blunters are a**holes

This is not a “Rule” for life, but more of a general recommendation I am taking the liberty of making.

I was seated with someone who was offering ‘advice’ to another. They said the following:
“So obviously, he doesn’t like you. Sorry was that blunt? I do that. Ha ha. I can be blunt like that sometimes. I hope that wasn’t blunt. Tell me if it was. Ha ha.”

I watched the face of the ‘blunted’ party drop as the ‘blunter’ went about their business. The blunted was too wounded to respond and so I jumped in with a simple “That was a pretty sh*tty thing to say. A little b*tchy, even. Oh. Sorry! Was that too blunt? Didn’t mean it…”

From this, I ask that you please be a little careful. Words are like weapons; I know this because Cher sang that very line some time ago. And Cher does not tell a lie.

If you are of the above ‘blunter’ variety, you are a callous a**. Before you open your mouth and utter sentences which need to be chased with a “was that too blunt?”, you are fully aware of the nature of your comments. You don’t just become aware of their nature the very moment you say them, but rather before you say them. Your chaser is cowardly because it’s a recognition that what you said was sh*tty, but the chaser serves as your defensive plea of “sorry, I’m just built this way and I can’t help myself!”.

Who the f*ck are you kidding?

Definitely not me. And if you wish to have a little more respect from the likes of me, then best to start off by saying: "Look, this is going to sound a little blunt, but I think you need to hear this...do you think you can handle this right now?" Because when you start off that way, you're acknowledging it, rather than - via cognitive dissonance - hiding behind it later.

So, the recommendation I would like to make to the rest of you is: Don’t f*cking say it, if you have to follow it up with ‘sorry! Was that blunt?’, because that’s seriously un-cool. When someone is walking wounded before you, most especially when it comes to matters of their heart, make certain to hold their heart gently and carefully. This is the very definition of ‘friend’.

To the blunters: I don’t buy that you are ‘just this way’ because that’s not the truth of it. The truth of it is that you are an a**hole who doesn’t pay attention to the feelings of others. Most likely, you’ve been handed some lemons during the course of your life and instead of making lemonade, you sucked on the lemons until your soul shriveled up and died. You get off on hurting other people, Sade, and I never liked Justine.