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Category Archives: Mindful Living

Memories of Ago: To shatter, or not to shatter?

Very recently, I received some information about someone with whom I had once dealt. From a person unknowing about the involvement, so unadulterated, unfiltered details. The kind of information which…

Relationship Economics

“Economics is the social science that studies production, distribution, exchange and consumption of goods and services, and the […] choices concerning the allocation of scarce means and resources.” “Don’t make…

Waving goodbye, exiting stage left

A part of tomorrow’s MahaMonday column touches lightly on the subject of when we should cut a platonic or romantic relationship out of our lives. With my own Shut-Off Valve…

Guerrilla Giving: Don’t be a self-involved asshole

‘Verily, the most honored of you in the sight of God is the one who is most righteous.’ (Quran 49:13) Each one of us defines “righteous” in a variety of…

When I Self-Glamour

Ask my best friends – I have an uncanny ability to lie to myself and believe every single word of it. It’s how I delude myself into believing that someone…

Childhood in Gaza: Of Coffee Cups, Figs & Letters

“You have to pick them before the birds do in the morning.” “At 10?” “In the morning…earlier, Maha.” “9?” “No.” “It’s the weekend, seedo. The birds will be sleeping because…


10 year anniversary & Min Fami

Today is this home’s 10 year anniversary. Yeah, it’s as unbelievable to me as it is to you, my seven readers. Last night, I participated in my first ever panel…


I use you; you use me?

  (I’ve said this before, but I will remind you: don’t ever engage a writer unless you’re ready to become their subject matter.) PSA: You don’t get to use people…

Why I am not writing as often

Thank you for all of your messages – I am very sorry that I’ve not been doing much writing but only for Maha Mondays at both Elle Beaver and Chai…


December’s (not so gentle) lessons

December has proven an interesting and challenging month. From it, I am blessed to carry into the new year three life lessons. First. Trust only my gut instinct. Nothing, absolutely…

Allah does not discriminate (a.k.a. “On Bein’ Single”)

Editorial Note: Originally published on 2012/11/19. ——————– “Since masculinity is defined through separation while femininity is defined through attachment, male gender identity is threatened by intimacy while female gender identity…

Gentlewoman’s Rules (aka How Not to be a Cad – Female Styles)

.2.   Trust him. Unless he’s treated you in untrustworthy fashion, trust him. .3.   If you don’t like something, then tell him. Don’t expect him to figure it out on his…

31 Ways on How Not To Be A Cad (for David F.)

.1. Respect her. (Respect yourself.) .2. Don’t just text her. Start calling instead. Conversation is a lost art form; revive it. (Text only when others are around and you want…

Lesson #1: Don’t stand next to their pile of sh/t unless…

Since a little girl, I have never been capable of looking at a situation and not trying to undo it, in order that I might understand its machinations. Unlike those…

Respecting one another, bridging the gap

There is a very strange inclination in the human situation; we default to exclusivity. Building bridges, mending gaps, shortening distances between ourselves is not an act most of us perform…

I don’t understand why you’re not standing on the X

Do you script? Meaning, do you sit around imagining the only one particular outcome is exactly this way and it has to be reached by a, then b, and then…

#366photos mission accomplished

370 days ago, I was sitting at Planet Coffee when I decided to start my little project. Randomly, I had heard of others starting such things but became anxious at…

Know-It-All: “She ripped my heart out of my nose”

Hey Prolific Immigrant, My best friend told me to write this because she reads you. She’s sitting next to me and wants me to start this by saying “she ripped…

“Mistakes are the entrance of discovery”

The following, why? Because as equally as I believe that we all need to be responsible for our bad behaviour, I too believe that almost everyone is deserving of the space…

Sustenance and the highest degrees of purification

Marasmus is a condition by which babies will die if they are not touched. If you feed them, and keep them clean and sheltered, and fill a bank account in…

On Suspicion

This article is being written on October 15, but I am scheduling it for publication post my return from California for two reasons: (1) I have a sense that I…

California, she reminded me

Already mentioned, this trip to California was planned some time back, but turned out, in the present, to be perfectly timed. At home, I have been challenged in the most…

Secret Loves

I remember being in University and keeping my then boyfriend a Secret Love. I now know that I was doing it because I wasn’t interested in him in the way…

The Fair-Weather Altruist

Because we tend toward a relatively self-involved perspective wrote the girl with a blog about herself, we all too often read that people come into our lives, and inflict pain…

Hartman’s on Bank Street in Ottawa is an asshole

Update July 2013: Please note a few days back, I found the girl and I gave her some peaches. Recently, I noticed that there are now (lovely and kind) homeless…

Balancing on Thor’s Hammer

Many of you have written in about Perspective is (almost) everything, sharing your stories about when you have been incapable of shifting to the left or to the right, backward…

Ya Fattah, Ya Salaam

For a variety of reasons, some rooted within my messy relationship with baba during my teenage years, others rooted in painfully challenging situations with men, I often struggled with trust….

On Regret

Short sundresses, broken straps, shit-kickers, unbuttoned shirts over moistened-with-humidity skin, and swamp lands. This is the imagery with which I am left every evening when I listen to the platinum…

“An Encounter With Simone Weil”

“Charity. To love human beings in so far as they are nothing. That is to love them as God does.” “A hurtful act is the transference to others of the…

You will get yours sooner or later. Trust.

Once upon a time, there was a group of friends. Amidst these individuals was a girl whom we shall call “Maha.” On a sunny Saturday morning, Maha left for a…

Rules for Living: A Life As Precious Cargo

The most important lesson I took from 2011, and which I have taken from every single year past is that life really and truly is precious cargo. I am not…

“Why are you single?”

Is one of my favourite questions to field. When was the last time this question was put to a man? Think about that for second… Right. That’s what I thought….

Delete

Sometimes, I would really like to say: “I un-friended you because your ego-driven behaviour is so very unfriendly. I un-friended you because 9 out of 10 times, I believe you’re…