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Category Archives: Mindful Relationships

Taylor Kitsch may sink my battleship, but…

Editorial Note: Originally published on 2012/02/17. ——————– Colin receives all of the accolades. Last week, I was on course for work. When introducing ourselves, we were asked to name our…

Egos & Immediate Self-Gratification

Like. Like. Like. How many Likes? Let me quantify myself by your Likes. My ego hates Freud Over coffee with Trouble (welcome home, Mr G), my friend and I conversed…

Gentlewoman’s Rules (aka How Not to be a Cad – Female Styles)

.2.   Trust him. Unless he’s treated you in untrustworthy fashion, trust him. .3.   If you don’t like something, then tell him. Don’t expect him to figure it out on his…

31 Ways on How Not To Be A Cad (for David F.)

.1. Respect her. (Respect yourself.) .2. Don’t just text her. Start calling instead. Conversation is a lost art form; revive it. (Text only when others are around and you want…

Know-It-All: Liar, liar, pants on fire

“Dear Maha, Thank you for your amazing site. My friends have been reading you for years and then we talk about your articles afterwards. I was in a really shitty…

Lesson #10: Balance is not just for Libras

“Once I have seen your face I shut my eyes to others.” – Rumi David last year told me that I, unlike any other individual she knows, has a sense…

Lesson #6 – #9: Don’t be a weirdo sovereign, and don’t confuse your bona fide with a therapist

Preamble: A has been in a healthy relationship for years. A loving, kind, generous, sexy, healthy relationship with an amazing man; if I am going to take advice from anyone,…

Lessons #2 – #5: To lower our standards or not to lower our standards?

            A little under two years ago, Aalya sent me an email wherein she wrote ‘[…] you are a shiny object put on this earth…

Lesson #1: Don’t stand next to their pile of sh/t unless…

Since a little girl, I have never been capable of looking at a situation and not trying to undo it, in order that I might understand its machinations. Unlike those…

Sea(s) of change

Purging, cleaning house and new beginnings. Ramadan ends in less than 24 hours and it has brought with it – literally – a sea of change. I’m looking forward to a little bit of an ebb now

World views, self-cutting and prayers answered

I asked, “Why have I received only this?” A voice replied, “‘Only this’ will lead you to That. -Rumi Once upon a mid June’s eve, I received an email which…

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” (Jimmy Dean)

No entry and no comments. This is simply a moment which I need to capture here. I will be writing again soon – I am so very very sorry that…

That time I found someone repulsive

“Human emotions are most directly influenced by smells that act directly into the brain. Your scent or pheromone signature determines, to a very great extent, how persons respond to you…

The Calm Within: Dewey Bozella

If you are unfamiliar with this beautiful man’s story, please take the necessary 11 minutes to watch this and learn from it. Love and light to you each and all…

Know-It-All: “She ripped my heart out of my nose”

Hey Prolific Immigrant, My best friend told me to write this because she reads you. She’s sitting next to me and wants me to start this by saying “she ripped…

The Secret to Being A Giant In A Woman’s World

Original explanation of ‘Manning-Up’ written in 2006. The expression “Manning-Up”, while sex derogatory, holds a lot of water for a lot of women still. Quite honestly, every single one of…

Secret Loves

I remember being in University and keeping my then boyfriend a Secret Love. I now know that I was doing it because I wasn’t interested in him in the way…

Girl In A Storm

I have already mentioned to you my Nutmeg Days, but have not sat down to write about the days which leave me feeling like the woman in this photo, without…

Secrets

I need to tell you, right now This may in fact be a psychosis, not sure yet. If something happens, I really do need to tell you because Sharing Is…

“Talk doesn’t cook rice”

One of the best (Chinese) proverbs ever, perhaps. Yesterday, my girlfriend and I were talking about boys (not to be confused with the male species as defined here). She mentioned…

Nutmeg Might Crack That Crazy Girl

Honest to God there are days I feel like I am punching myself in the face. Absolutely stupid morning, which started with my drinking the wrong of two lattes (I…

Christmas trees adrift…

The early years after my parents fell out of love with one another and divorced, I didn’t much act out against my mother. One way I did act out is…

Sexual Chemistry and Marty

I am writing a follow-up to Defining ‘Sexual Chemistry’, and so sending you there to read in advance. GODSPEED. Comments closed. Digg this post Recommend on Facebook share via Reddit…

The Monzer Hammer (where there are no second chances)

Let me tell you about that amazing and heart-warming moment between my baba and I when he, well intentioned, took my crushed heart and hammered it like he was on…

Colouring between the lines

Colouring between the lines. It’s never really been my strong suit, emotionally. I am a Libra born under a Scorpio something (moon or sun, I don’t exactly know). Any Reader…

Know-It-All: Evil Step Mothers

Editorial Note: I have witnessed first-hand step-mums who have done their best and tried their hardest and plowed through to the best of their ability and strength…only to be met…

There’s a rumor it’s raining men, so I burnt my umbrellas

For most of my life, I understood the level at which I should expect to be treated by those in my life, and could demand it in return because I…

Happy Valentine’s Day

Hia! Valentine’s Day alone? Yes, please! As a Singleton, I am really excited about other peoples relationships, while I hang out with my mum, and same sex non romantic girlfriend….

A Treatise on Male Hands

These last few days have confirmed I have a fetish for male hands. More specific, and because I have recently been witness to little wee man hands, I realize that:…

“Why are you single?”

Is one of my favourite questions to field. When was the last time this question was put to a man? Think about that for second… Right. That’s what I thought….

The Metaphorical Bloody Knuckle

Y’all remember S? He’s been MIA for some time because he’s finishing his screenplay. Though S has been working a great deal on his writing, I am humbled that he…

Relationship advice for men + women who hate one another

I was recently going through a friend’s bookshelf and among a deeply disturbing volume of this genre’s nonsense, I stumbled upon: Why Men Marry Bitches: A woman’s guide to winning…

Perfect mornings are drenched in rain

Several years back, Alisa & Ryan were married at Lake Placid. Baby Jane and I stayed at the Trail Head’s Inn in the Bigelow Room, then owned and run by a young couple…