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MahaMonday: When they don’t love you anymore

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man’s wife tells him she does not love him anymore. As to what can be done now, in your present situation: the good news is…

Guerrilla Giving: Don’t be a self-involved asshole

‘Verily, the most honored of you in the sight of God is the one who is most righteous.’ (Quran 49:13) Each one of us defines “righteous” in a variety of…

MahaMonday: Friendship’s End

At Chai Latte Diaries I’m asked about the heartbreak of broken friendship. I can also tell you that if you wish to be a healthy adult who does build and…

MahaMonday: Regarding his silence

At Chai Latte Diaries, a currently sad (surely beautiful and amazing) little monkey has asked a man out and met with silence. What now?: …your way forward is clear –…

#BlackLivesMatter

For the past while, I have been fixated on the deaths of Tamir Rice, Mike Brown and Eric Garner. Every moment I have a second to think past work or…

MahaMonday: Waiting for Godot

Boy likes girl. Boy doesn’t make move. Girl moves on. Boy suddenly wants to rush girl. In a nutshell, at Chai Latte Diaries: “Cold hard truth is that I am…

Potatoed immigrant children

I have suddenly fallen in love with green nature. Swear to God this must be because I am now living in a box in the sky. I was born in…

MahaMonday: Dating & grammar

Editorial Note: Make sure you find the on-purpose mistake I made in my response.  A lovely reader at Chai Latte Diaries asks whether it’s alright to cut men out of…

MahaMonday: Makin’ new friends

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman in a new city is trying to make new friends. Only, many people are mean-girls: For you and the people you mention, simply understand…

MahaMonday: Settling & Body Image

At Chai Latte Diaries, I respond to a woman worried about body image and settling for the wrong man: On settling – this too is a valid fear, which I…

Crushes as Pillows

A couple of months ago a dear girlfriend was talking to me about a weird crush that she had on a man – weird because she knew it would never…

When I Self-Glamour

Ask my best friends – I have an uncanny ability to lie to myself and believe every single word of it. It’s how I delude myself into believing that someone…

On Jian Ghomeshi and Violence Against Women: Where Do We Go From Here?

For Elle Beaver, I wrote about what comes next – hopefully, if we do it right, the response to Jian Ghomeshi will help us become a safer society for the voices…

Making a lover of ugly

On Monday past, I received some stressful news which came with a jpeg. In defense of my incredible friend who sent me the message, they thought I would find the…

MahaMonday: A racist ex + prayers answered

At Elle Beaver, a wonderful woman was dumped because of her boyfriend’s racist father. You read that right…and it is in fact 2014. I yell about racism and then I…

A letter from my heart to your ears

Dear Fella: Everything I thought I loved about you has turned out to be completely and totally false. 2012 & 2013 were interesting years for my romantic life, teaching me…

MahaMonday: 2nd chances + 50 shades

This week, I am asked about the ‘ghosting’ phenomenon; men we’re dating, who then vanish, only to resurface months later as though nothing happened: “[…]when a man vanishes without grace…

MahaMonday: Daddy Issues n Dates

At Chai Latte Diaries, a beautiful little thing asks me what to do about her absentee father: The love and support which your father should have given you was never…

MahaMonday: Resenting him & his ex

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to manage a woman whose resentful of her new piece’s ex, but not for the reasons one might imagine: A suspicious heart is…

MahaMonday: Angry retired parent

At Chai Latte Diaries, a reader is asking about how to deal with a recently retired parent who is angry arguing with everyone and their mother: In great part, and whether…

This is DATING!

The last time I was officially part of a club was grade 8 Dungeons and Dragons club. I was the only girl; none of us were dating anyone, my crush…

Love Stories

For those of you who have lived here long enough, you know that I believe in the Friday Night Lights representation of Eric & Tami Taylor’s marriage. I believe it…

Childhood in Gaza: Of Coffee Cups, Figs & Letters

“You have to pick them before the birds do in the morning.” “At 10?” “In the morning…earlier, Maha.” “9?” “No.” “It’s the weekend, seedo. The birds will be sleeping because…

Gaza

Many of you are asking how I am doing and how my family is doing in Gaza. I’ve not been able to discuss anything much but have only managed to…

MahaMonday: Fiscal conservatism

Chai Latte Diaries, the question is whether to bankrupt oneself to meet a friend’s extravagant spending or not: “…understand that she is not under an obligation to “shell out more…

MahaMonday: Lonely Ramadan

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to deal with the often times challenging days of Ramadan and the loneliness they might carry within them:“Ramadan is a time of…

On potential and the ideal man

I believe in the possibility and potential of love, experienced through the unspoken pull of bodies toward one another, shock-waves physically lit up making us incapable of maintaining eye-contact for…

Laughter is the world’s top WMD

This baby has either just spied a nipp!e (this same expression he will carry with him for the rest of his life), or is laughing. Either way, he is edible…

Moving to be with your partner; how far would you go, ho?

A former colleague recently spent some time in my office telling me about her new piece. I shall call this friend ‘Green’. Piece resides in Texas, and so Green’s first (because…

MahaMonday: Slippery slopes

This one got folks riled up. Someone at Chai Latte Diaries asked me if he should ask her out again, a year after she said no. Me, I couldn’t see…

MahaMonday: Chemistry + break-up

At Elle Beaver, I’m asked for advice on how to handle and get over a bad break-up: “When she comes out of this, please remind her to open her heart…

Love on Venice Blvd

After an incredible couple of hours of faith and music filled conversation over lunch at Urth Caffe, I had to make my way home and so chose to walk along…

Maha Mondays: Speaking to strangers but not being creepy

This week at Chai Latte Diaries I was asked how it is that I am so full of hot air. Only, it sounded a lot nicer than that because it…

Building and Maintaining Trust

Trust between partners — aside from top-notch sexuals, humour, and respect — is a fundamental pillar in any solid relationship. It is among the few things which, once broken, renders…

Maha Mondays: Flirting & Mommas

On May 19 at CLD, this hilarious seeker of advice wants to know how to flirt so she no longer has to hide behind coffee cups: “…the answer will be…

1st time I saw a man’s fun-bits

The first time I saw a man’s fun part was in a safe and romantic setting where I was a willing and capable participant. Delete. The first time I saw…

Maha Mondays: A woman asks what’s wrong with me; a man asks what’s wrong with women…

At Chai Latte Diaries, one women is struggling to find the purpose of her life while in tandem emotionally self-cutting: “From my extensive scientific research (through my Facebook Timeline), I…

On the audacity of having an opinion

Originally published on March 5, 2014. I was recently reminded that once upon an ex friendship, I was told that I have opinions. Stop laughing. The intention of his statement was…

Maha Mondays: Distressing colleagues & financial (love) concerns

At Elle Beaver, a writer doesn’t know what to do when asked to team up another time: “You will have to be frank and by that, I mean telling her…

Submissions: It’s Only Love

I held one of my dear and beloved friends, Naomi K. Lewis, hostage and forced her to listen to my idea for a collection of stories. Then I gripped my…