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Maha Monday: Lying to your partner about having babies

A woman has been taking contraceptives behind her husband’s back. Wow. She’s come to me to ask WHAT? (I all-too-often honestly don’t understand how people function.) That you don’t want…

Maha Monday: No polygamy, folks

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man wants to marry more than one woman. His wife has already said she will divorce his sorry ass if he does; she’s come to…

Maha Monday: On Muslim women dating non-Muslim men

A very unpopular subject this week about an often silenced conversation r- Muslim women being involved with non-Muslim men. We all know the ruling, but I focused on our freedom…

Maha Monday: Literally, how far would you go?

If you met someone who lived in a part of the world you had never considered moving to, would you cut your losses or would you pursue it and not…

Maha Monday column: Daughters-in-law

A Momma-in-law had hoped that she and her new daughter-in-law might become fast and intimate BFFs, but the daughter-in-law has very different ideas about family-in-law entanglements… “…the duties and obligations…

Maha Monday Column: When your gut screams against marriage

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman is caught between her family’s pressure to pursue marriage, and her gut’s panic to absolutely NOT. “Fun Fact! It is always hard to find…

Maha Monday Column: Secretly mourning the death of a past suitor

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman secretly mourns the death of a past suitor. A little at sea, she is uncertain of what to tell her husband and how to…

Maha Monday Column: (New) Marriage counseling

At Chai Latte Diaries, a newly married woman asks what she should do when her husband won’t let her join his alone marriage-counseling sessions. On his own. By himself. Without…

Maha Monday Column: Inheritance & the Single Daughter

This week, I was asked about inheritance laws and allowances by a single woman, the only daughter with two brothers: …your parents can in fact provide you with the inheritance…

Maha Monday Column + Video: What is ‘love’ and how do we lose it?

At The Chai Diaries, a man’s wife tells him she doesn’t “love [him] anymore” – confused, lonely, and worried about their children, he reaches out and asks what (if anything)…

Maha Monday Column + Video: What is Gaslighting & breaking the cycle of shame

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked to explain what is ‘gaslighting’, one of the more insidious forms of emotional violence: The effects on the gaslightee are: – To doubt…

Maha Monday Column + Video: His lukewarm interest & timing

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man kind of likes a girl. But maybe he’s not sure. Also, he might not be ready. Maybe. What should he do? If she is…

MahaMonday: Acting on rumors

There are a few rumors running around this budding emotional entanglement. What then? Here, I advise you to keep things simple and clean. I very strongly encourage you to ask…

MahaMonday: Online dating & safety

At Chai Latte Diaries, a mansplainer tries to mansplain a woman’s safety away; I get into the perameters of safe online (and offline) dating scenarios: Always, the first three rules…

MahaMonday: Match-making aunties & wedding season

At Chai Latte Diaries, I’m asked how to answer the world’s most boring and predictable answer (which is handed out to all biological and non-biological aunties at the annual Global…

MahaMonday: Marriage & caring for elderly parents

A gentleman at Chai Latte Diaries asks me how to address the challenges of marriage while he cares for his elderly parents who live with him: From a Muslim angle,…

MahaMonday: Dating & grammar

Editorial Note: Make sure you find the on-purpose mistake I made in my response.  A lovely reader at Chai Latte Diaries asks whether it’s alright to cut men out of…

MahaMonday: Settling & Body Image

At Chai Latte Diaries, I respond to a woman worried about body image and settling for the wrong man: On settling – this too is a valid fear, which I…

Maha Mondays: Harassment in the workplace

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman asks how to deal with harassment in her new place of work: “You need to be okay with your own terminology: You are being “defensive”…

Maha Mondays: Virgins, divorcees, secrets & abuse

At Chai Latte Diaries, we’re discussing the secrets we might keep from our lovers: “Sometimes, while our intentions are good (to tell the truth), and while they should not illicit…