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*New* Maha Monday: I’m worried that my faith wavers

Hello – It has been a minute! Thank you for all of your gracious messages that continue to filter in, and for your kind words asking after me. I am…

Maha Monday: Lying to your partner about having babies

A woman has been taking contraceptives behind her husband’s back. Wow. She’s come to me to ask WHAT? (I all-too-often honestly don’t understand how people function.) That you don’t want…

Maha Monday: No polygamy, folks

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man wants to marry more than one woman. His wife has already said she will divorce his sorry ass if he does; she’s come to…

Maha Monday: On Muslim women dating non-Muslim men

A very unpopular subject this week about an often silenced conversation r- Muslim women being involved with non-Muslim men. We all know the ruling, but I focused on our freedom…

Maha Monday: Literally, how far would you go?

If you met someone who lived in a part of the world you had never considered moving to, would you cut your losses or would you pursue it and not…

Maha Monday column: Daughters-in-law

A Momma-in-law had hoped that she and her new daughter-in-law might become fast and intimate BFFs, but the daughter-in-law has very different ideas about family-in-law entanglements… “…the duties and obligations…

Maha Monday Column: When your gut screams against marriage

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman is caught between her family’s pressure to pursue marriage, and her gut’s panic to absolutely NOT. “Fun Fact! It is always hard to find…

Maha Monday Column: Secretly mourning the death of a past suitor

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman secretly mourns the death of a past suitor. A little at sea, she is uncertain of what to tell her husband and how to…

Maha Monday Column: (New) Marriage counseling

At Chai Latte Diaries, a newly married woman asks what she should do when her husband won’t let her join his alone marriage-counseling sessions. On his own. By himself. Without…

Maha Monday Column: Inheritance & the Single Daughter

This week, I was asked about inheritance laws and allowances by a single woman, the only daughter with two brothers: …your parents can in fact provide you with the inheritance…

Maha Monday Column + Video: What is ‘love’ and how do we lose it?

At The Chai Diaries, a man’s wife tells him she doesn’t “love [him] anymore” – confused, lonely, and worried about their children, he reaches out and asks what (if anything)…

Maha Monday Column + Video: What is Gaslighting & breaking the cycle of shame

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked to explain what is ‘gaslighting’, one of the more insidious forms of emotional violence: The effects on the gaslightee are: – To doubt…

Maha Monday Column + Video: His lukewarm interest & timing

At Chai Latte Diaries, a man kind of likes a girl. But maybe he’s not sure. Also, he might not be ready. Maybe. What should he do? If she is…

Maha Monday Column + Video: On Trusting Others

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to re-engage trust after our trust has had its bottom handed to it, by no fault of our own (or, as always,…

MahaMonday: Acting on rumors

There are a few rumors running around this budding emotional entanglement. What then? Here, I advise you to keep things simple and clean. I very strongly encourage you to ask…

MahaMonday: Online dating & safety

At Chai Latte Diaries, a mansplainer tries to mansplain a woman’s safety away; I get into the perameters of safe online (and offline) dating scenarios: Always, the first three rules…

MahaMonday: Match-making aunties & wedding season

At Chai Latte Diaries, I’m asked how to answer the world’s most boring and predictable answer (which is handed out to all biological and non-biological aunties at the annual Global…

MahaMonday: Marriage & caring for elderly parents

A gentleman at Chai Latte Diaries asks me how to address the challenges of marriage while he cares for his elderly parents who live with him: From a Muslim angle,…

MahaMonday: Dating & grammar

Editorial Note: Make sure you find the on-purpose mistake I made in my response.  A lovely reader at Chai Latte Diaries asks whether it’s alright to cut men out of…

MahaMonday: Settling & Body Image

At Chai Latte Diaries, I respond to a woman worried about body image and settling for the wrong man: On settling – this too is a valid fear, which I…

MahaMonday: Slippery slopes

This one got folks riled up. Someone at Chai Latte Diaries asked me if he should ask her out again, a year after she said no. Me, I couldn’t see…

Maha Mondays: Harassment in the workplace

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman asks how to deal with harassment in her new place of work: “You need to be okay with your own terminology: You are being “defensive”…

Maha Mondays: Virgins, divorcees, secrets & abuse

At Chai Latte Diaries, we’re discussing the secrets we might keep from our lovers: “Sometimes, while our intentions are good (to tell the truth), and while they should not illicit…

Maha Mondays: Your Piece’s Bully of a BFF & The Fella Who Wants to Commit (but is stuck in a tree of his own making)

Elle Beaver’s reader is challenged by a dismissive limp-dick boyfriend and his BFF: “…those whose uplifting is sourced from their active debasement of others are the most miserable and insecure…

‘Maha Mondays’ is live

Find the first column at Elle Beaver, in response to: How Do I Satisfy My Personal and Physical Needs (Quickly)? A snippet: In this same ‘being an adult’ vein, switch up your logic….

Elle Beaver – I am your new favourite Consigliere

Does “Consigliere” have a gender? Either way, I have better hair than Tom Hagen. So, over here on this Elle Beaver intro page you’ll find the details about my new gig. They…