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Maha Monday Column + Video: On being romantically rejected and shamed // Rules for a break-up

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman gets shamed and mistreated for telling a man she cares about him. I think he is a knob-head who reacted disproportionately, and then gave…

The Monzer Hammer (where there are no second chances)

Let me tell you about that amazing and heart-warming moment between my baba and I when he, well intentioned, took my crushed heart and hammered it like he was on…

Are you a belly-up turtle?

Due to certain circumstance, I have – in the last perhaps month – been having bouts of complete and total rage. Wicked anger the likes of which I have never…

Forgiving who does not offer an apology

Over the years, I have watched a metamorphisis of those who do not forgive; they are hardened, they are incapable of trust, they are ever licking their wounds because their…

Roots

I recently wrote something, of which the following is a small bit. I never made it public because it felt too raw and because I was arguing with myself while…

The day I hid in a bush. Seriously.

 I loved him ferociously.  Else, I would have never stood inside of a thorny bush to spy on him.  Maybe I would have done this and thought it normal if…

Four rules for heartbreak

No one can break your heart. That’s my starting point and it’s the only honest point of self empowerment. No one breaks our hearts, but rather, we allow our hearts…

An Open Letter to BB

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Stupidity is missing your stop on an express bus with huge distances between stops.” On Blackberry Messenger two nights back I received…

The Shut-Off Valve

I just sent my friend Yusuf the following bit of advice: Just remember that making a new potential partner pay for someone else’s asshatery hurts both you and the new one. …

Parents roasting tomatoes over a friend’s fire

.1. Do you keep forgetting that your momma and poppa are individuals before they are parents? That they had and continue to have dreams and that they may look at…

Worth Noting

That at this same time of the years spanning 2005 – 2008 inclusive, there were moments of deep sadness in my life. Each year, there was a particular thing, for…

Na.OH.Mi standing beneath a hupa

So. Naomi and I have known one another since university – she was completing her undergraduate and I my M.A. and we both lived at the graduate pub on campus…

A Love Letter to Baby Jane

You are all quite familiar with Janey. This is her wearing the scarf I knit and sent her way two weeks back – it is ‘The Johnny Scarf’, J not…

The Story That Hides

Some stories love to be told and some stories will fight you if you try to tell them. Part reality and part perspective, these never-new stories are universal, having already…

A special note to Baby Jane

Love you. Miss you. Thinking of you, always. & ready to open a can of Texan-style whup-ass on your behalf, if requested. Or just bake you a cake. Or braid…

Quote of this day

It’s possible I am pushing through solid rock in flintlike layers, as the ore lies, alone; I am such a long way in I see no way through, and no…

Unlpugging

Hi all – I’ve decided to unplug for a few weeks or so. I won’t be photo blogging either, sorry. Be safe. Digg this post Recommend on Facebook share via…

Tunnels aren’t fun

As most of you are aware, I’m living with Baba these days. Baba’s a very rational and controlled man – he likes things exactly where he’s placed them and in…

Solace

Walking down the hall just moments ago a colleague who passed me said: Maha! I have to tell you, it’s so nice to see you smiling! Suddenly, it hit me….