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Maha Monday Column + Video: When Friends’ True Colours Are Shady

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked for advice on an unwelcome and insecure-male-driven ‘love triangle’ as well as how to react to when our good intentions are maligned: This…

Maha Monday Column + Video: Friendship after dating?

The Maha Monday series is now officially a video & column response, with this the first one. It’s grainy and has terrible lighting and I may have made up the…

Crushes as Pillows

A couple of months ago a dear girlfriend was talking to me about a weird crush that she had on a man – weird because she knew it would never…

A letter from my heart to your ears

Dear Fella: Everything I thought I loved about you has turned out to be completely and totally false. 2012 & 2013 were interesting years for my romantic life, teaching me…

Love Stories

For those of you who have lived here long enough, you know that I believe in the Friday Night Lights representation of Eric & Tami Taylor’s marriage. I believe it…

Moving to be with your partner; how far would you go, ho?

A former colleague recently spent some time in my office telling me about her new piece. I shall call this friend ‘Green’. Piece resides in Texas, and so Green’s first (because…

Love on Venice Blvd

After an incredible couple of hours of faith and music filled conversation over lunch at Urth Caffe, I had to make my way home and so chose to walk along…

Maha Mondays: A woman asks what’s wrong with me; a man asks what’s wrong with women…

At Chai Latte Diaries, one women is struggling to find the purpose of her life while in tandem emotionally self-cutting: “From my extensive scientific research (through my Facebook Timeline), I…

Maha Mondays: More iron than velvet, this week

For Chai Latte Diaries and Elle Beaver advice columns – please be advised that I have neither admin nor edit rights to either their FB pages or their websites. Additionally,…

‘Maha Mondays’ is live

Find the first column at Elle Beaver, in response to: How Do I Satisfy My Personal and Physical Needs (Quickly)? A snippet: In this same ‘being an adult’ vein, switch up your logic….

Imagine if we were swans?

Editorial Note: Originally published on 2012/04/06. ——————– We’d croak when our partner died. No fun. Two days ago, I was discussing soul mates with my friend. Whether we believed there…

Know-It-All: Liar, liar, pants on fire

“Dear Maha, Thank you for your amazing site. My friends have been reading you for years and then we talk about your articles afterwards. I was in a really shitty…

That time I found someone repulsive

“Human emotions are most directly influenced by smells that act directly into the brain. Your scent or pheromone signature determines, to a very great extent, how persons respond to you…

#366photos mission accomplished

370 days ago, I was sitting at Planet Coffee when I decided to start my little project. Randomly, I had heard of others starting such things but became anxious at…

The Secret to Being A Giant In A Woman’s World

Original explanation of ‘Manning-Up’ written in 2006. The expression “Manning-Up”, while sex derogatory, holds a lot of water for a lot of women still. Quite honestly, every single one of…

Secret Loves

I remember being in University and keeping my then boyfriend a Secret Love. I now know that I was doing it because I wasn’t interested in him in the way…

Know-It-All: My best friend is in love with me

Dear Maha, I love your Know-It-Alls and I wait for them with baited breaht. I am in a dilemma and don’t know what to do. I am so confused and…

Know-It-All: My new piece’s past

Dear Maha, (Name withheld) I have been dating for a few months now. I thought he was perfect until last week when he told me a few things about his…

Secrets

I need to tell you, right now This may in fact be a psychosis, not sure yet. If something happens, I really do need to tell you because Sharing Is…

Searching the engines + landing at Know-It-All

Hia! to the wonderful person who is frantically Googling “is straddling inappropriately flirting in a relationship” and landing on mine. The answer to your Q is a resounding and all…

Know-It-All: My Boyfriend Cheated

Maha. My new boyfriend told me he cheated on his ex to get out of the relationship and I am having a really hard time trusting him now every time…

Relationship advice for men + women who hate one another

I was recently going through a friend’s bookshelf and among a deeply disturbing volume of this genre’s nonsense, I stumbled upon: Why Men Marry Bitches: A woman’s guide to winning…

Four rules for heartbreak

No one can break your heart. That’s my starting point and it’s the only honest point of self empowerment. No one breaks our hearts, but rather, we allow our hearts…

The bottom line doesn’t make him a d.ck

Every time you speak, he will tell you how happy he is that you called; he’ll tell you how great it is to hear your voice; he’ll tell you he’s sorry he’s…

A.D.D. Convos: From sexual fluidity to monogamy

My friend Emily and I were recently discussing – within the context of her life – what it is about certain individuals that makes the idea of committing to them…

Dating Advice from the Non-Dater

As those of you who live here know, I am a relative non-dater. I’ve always been able to do without, and unlike some RoboDaters I know, I’ve never been one…

Not speaking in either the past unreal conditional or the future unreal conditional (as present tense is best)

The following is a conversation I had with a friend on Facebook; I have deleted her name for reasons of privacy. To facilitate your reading of this, please note that…

Christian Bale wears the shit out of his suits and likes his wife

I blogged the following: .1. Have just come back from seeing Batman Begins with Di and her Peej. Before the film began, we were discussing the dynamics between men and…

Playing in the fields of Calgary

It was my first time visiting Calgary and I loved it. Surprisingly, Calgary is a lovely and calming place (notwithstanding their crazy Conservative politix). Most of my trip was spent…

How do men fall in love?

So I’ve received some interesting emails from both men and women since posting the blurb that: “(Did you know that men are the ones who fall in love at first…

I once wrote: ‘I believe in love, actually’

I still do; perhaps more so now than ever before. (Please befriend a leprechaun and shed the weight of your bitterness on your way out…) Digg this post Recommend on…

Quote of this day

“Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment, and especially on their children, than the unlived life of the parents.” – Carl Jung (I love this man!) Digg this…