I clearly don’t believe a fucking word of what’s being said here. It might be one of my favourite pictures ever, my friend took it because he knew what was about to happen next and how I was going to react to what was being said. He’s known me years enough to know when I’m simmering. He was not wrong.

And me simmering in the face of bullshit is not a me you want to be around. Age has tempered this a little bit, but not a lot. Video in place of human interaction has helped far more than anything else, because I now simply cut the conversation short and hang up when someone isn’t able to let honesty live in their mouths.

At lunch with one of my favourite humans yesterday, we discussed love and honesty. He was far more articulate than me when I asked what love meant for him – he said: Compassion, forgiveness, understanding, building a path to tomorrow, all of which is rooted in God-consciousness. In the same way that Rumi writes about love as a reflection of Love, this was my friend’s point.

That when done right, love between two people is a path back to God.

Isn’t that beautiful? So much!

And it naturally lends itself to defining what the path to God is, then.

Honesty. Accountability. Integrity. Responsibility.

Among the most beloved to Allah are those who speak truth, even if it is against themselves; the most disliked are hypocrites (liars) and those who never take accountability for their actions but rather always blame others (so again, not telling the truth; liars. This is a trend).

When we answer a question, do people believe us?

When we speak something, do people trust us?

This is why I can never date casually. It’s why I’m a relationship girl from day one.

Show me the true depths of your soul or leave me the fuck alone. Be ready to get dirty right in the muck of who you are, who I am, and what we look like together or Go. Away.

If you can’t tell me the truth about the darkest parts of you, I don’t want to know the faces you wear in public. I am not interested.

Show me all of the ugliest things about you that you hide from even yourself sometimes and let’s rock and roll.

If you can’t open your chest to show me what you struggle with the most, what terrifies you about yourself, and why you sometimes don’t feel worthy of more, I don’t want to know you.

As I watch couples age around me, I keep returning to my belief that most people get divorced because they’re too scared to be honest with one another. They lie and lie and lie to get along with whatever the Jones’ might pretend they are, but truth can’t stay quiet for too long. She always shows up, and she will always outrun you.

What I have learned through experience is that the more authentic you are, the more truth you discover about others. Meaning, if you’re vibrating at an authentic frequency where you do your best to tell no lies, live what you believe and say, behave in alignment with that authenticity, then you will always attract more truth – through dreams, through circumstance, through people disclosing the truth out of care.

Again, for the people in the back: The Universe does not, will not, can not protect wrong-doing. Your ass will be exposed, because balance is universal law.

Here’s the metaphysical and the psychological – Frequencies draw same; put another way, there is resonance between similar frequencies. The strongest human frequency has been confirmed to be authenticity, which means it will draw same. (Source: Look up the SPANE Scale.)

You a liar? Guess what frequency is showing up, friend.

Also.

You trying to do better? You will attract better. You will attract frequencies that can elevate you if you like yourself enough.

You authentic? Liars and malice can’t stay in your orbit for too long; God will make sure of it. Every dumbass will  be punted until someone meets your authentic frequency.

That’s a lot of food for thought. Here’s a love-truth to carry you through your weekend.

Do you know how a man loves you? Cis straight men, I mean. Do you know how they show love? It’s primal and subconscious and I will die on this hill.

They
Will
Think
Too
Highly
Of
You
To
Place
You
In
Fuckshit
Situations

What does that mean?

It means that he will never belittle you, humiliate you, diminish from you, make a fool out of you while you’re around and when you’re absent. He will always raise you up, whether you’re there to see it or not.

Who does this? Healed men; men who have done their own shadow work and who have enough self-respect and self-love to own their shit, so that they might then undo it and leave it in their past.

It’s a man who will place you above his desires if those desires of his will harm you. He will treat you in the same way that he returns to God – with honesty, accountability, integrity, and responsibility.

That’s the only love and care worth having, and that kind of man is the only one you should allow into your orbit. May all other loves miss us.

Always, the reminder: Be careful to whom you grant access, my love. Every individual is a portal; few will elevate you, while most will degrade you because they can’t lift themselves.

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