MahaMonday: Your spouse tells you they don’t love you

April 6, 2015 - Maha Monday - Tagged: , , , , , ,

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At Chai Latte Diaries, he tells us that she’s told him she doesn’t love him anymore. Now what?

As to what can be done now, in your present situation: the good news is that you are not powerless and she has not yet asked for a divorce. Though you can not force her hand, you still have the ability to control your own behaviour. Your first move is to understand on what stage you are currently standing. To do this, you will need to ask, and then be ready for an extremely long and painful road to a healthy situation (healthy if it ends in divorce, or healthy if it ends in reconciliation – aim for healthy in both instances if not for yourselves, then for the two children implicated).

Naturally, you can not play ball with someone who has thrown away her catcher’s mitt and has turned her back. If she blocks your every single move to reconcile and to rebuild, you will have to seriously consider whether or not you wish to continue in this marriage.

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