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Category Archives: Mindful Living

The Meaning

My first cold in three years last week. Sick as a dog, I stayed away from everyone for 11 days (though at the 9th day mark, I did meet a…

The Healing

Stunning work by Eloy Bida. 2024 continues to confirm itself as one of my most uncomfortable years. Every month, there has been a specific date or two seared into my…

The Chain

Chimene told me this story while I was shadowboxing my own pain in 2018. Then, as I do today, I call these War Stories shared by women in our healing, a…

The Sexual and The Divine

There is no puritanical under or overtones in our religion. But it certainly exists in the patriarchy, and in orthodoxy both in service of men, to the detriment of women….

The Romancing Stone(s)

We made it to Sandia Peak, where I watched a man propose. As soon as we saw them, I’d said to Jennifer that he was going to propose. It was…

The Feral Dessert

I watched her for a while before deciding to sit with her. My four-card spread wasn’t a surprise. Tarot is intended more to help you focus, and to pull things…

The Reminders Series 1

Re-reading some heart-specific works, and will be posting some reminders for all of us over the coming while. From Secrets of Divine Love. ————— Comments closed.

The Ferdous

Allah loves beauty. And my People are beautiful. These are my cousins adults now still in Gaza. These are my cousins adults now still in Gaza two with their own…

The Forgiving Memory

As mentioned in The Trustworthy, here’s the short reflection on and explanation of the Muslim direction regarding letting people recover from their past mistakes – this idea that we’re not…

The Trustworthy

“Fare Thee with Patience And Grace because relationships are a cuntpunt.” (Bobby 3:16, 44) Aside from explosive physical chemistry, intellectual compatibility, and sharing laughter, there is one key element to…

The Sufi Teacher

I promised you I would write about converts like Mahmoud, and I will inshAllah. Until then, I will point you in the direction of one of my teachers – Musab…

The Principled

“I’d rather go broke or be on the street than lose my principles.” – Mahmoud Abdul-Rauf The bullsh!t that is the NBA needs to pay reparations. This is an absolute…

The Soul-Work

Desert-home and men in kohl, both are my birthright. For those who don’t know, it is sunnah for Muslim men to use kohl, and let me tell you, friends, it’s…

The Garment Between

When this photo first went viral, it was assumed that her husband was safeguarding her from the sun. It’s since been confirmed that it’s her brother. Either way, it will…

The Goodness

“Sometimes you don’t survive whole, you just survive in part. But the grandeur of life is about that attempt. It’s not about the solution. It is about being as fearless…

The Night of Power

Ramadan is ending. Tonight is very likely the Night of Power. Ask for His forgiveness. Make your du3as. Among the things for which I am asking are that He increase…

The Stand

“He wasn’t good, he was great. It felt like I was watching a god play basketball.” -Shaquille O’Neill Are you familiar with Mahmoud Abdul-Rauf? If we’re connected on Instagram, then…

The Gems

Raise girls who are deeply curious and very difficult to shame. Mark them with Warsan Shire’s: “I belong deeply to myself.” Our Prophet (sAws) made it clear during his last…

The Habit

I still have the shoes and the skirt. I don’t know who took the photo. My cousin found it on some random website where someone had written nonsense accompanying the…

The Safeguarding

About two decades ago, I was visiting friends in Austin, one of whom worked at Shakespeare’s pub on 6th. There was a special filming of Girls Gone Wild. While sitting…

The Love Revolutionary

Solidarity work is directly linked and reflected in our most intimate relationships. This world can be a devastatingly awful place, even though it is a privilege to live in it…

The Sanctuary

This is S & A’s home, a sanctuary of rest and peace. Just sitting with S is a study in calm. Last night, we had apple strudel, cinnamon-sugar twists, and…

The Sucks

I tried golf for the first time and I absolutely sucked. They tried to help me with instructions, and I just couldn’t do it. Then the biggest practical joker out…

The Burning

This is one of my favourite buildings in my neighborhood and I could smell the fire blocks away. Morning walk, and I stopped to watch how the firefighters worked –…

The Time-Stamp

This is my favourite landscape (or is it aesthetic? I’m actually not sure). New Mexico can’t come soon enough, inshAllah. You’re getting my favourite photos from Sayulita, though I am…

The Desert Moons

I got in this morning. After traveling literally anywhere and not knowing where I might sleep next for the duration of my Sabbatical year, I was exhausted of flight. Three…

The Soul-Sick

This little friend greets me daily on my walks to/from home. I think he stays inside mostly to avoid the roosters that run these streets. “And I will tell you…

The Street Tacos

Today, after watching the day break over the ocean, I’ve spent it going from cart to cart to confirm the best beef tacos. I found the stand – 20 pesos…

The Clear Heart

You’re getting all of the selfies because I rarely post them and I’ve hardly taken any since the hellscape of G@za began. I am at peace here, which is my…

The Dawn

What’s your favourite time of day? It’s dawn for me; watching the sun rise, more than seeing it sleep. Everything is quiet, and potential at acme. The sky is so…

The Island Girl

Even when landlocked, I have always been an Island Girl. The ocean makes everything make sense. Salt-water is a natural state for me, and it is to such shores that…

The Star Wish

I haven’t seen skies like this since California. This city forces you to look up, so you naturally slow. It’s an exercise in mindfulness whether you want it or not….

The Revolutionaries

This is the first sunburn I’ve had since at least eight years. I love it, and I can’t wait to turn toasted almond in a couple of days. A lot…

The Groove

Khruangbin was recommended to me and I haven’t shut them off since.  What is music to you? How does it shape your life, or does your life shape the music…

The Libra Tiger

I think very few people know of the metaphysical side of Islam. It’s where Sufiis are rooted, and one of the most important parts of my deen, for me. I…

The Kiss

Season 2, episode 15. New Girl still holds as one of the best shows on television, with Nick Miller as my favourite character. Jake Johnson’s willingness to make a complete…

The Necessary Play

I play a lot. All of the time. Do you? It’s my gateway drug. I find it weird when people don’t play. My cousin’s husband got shot yesterday while he…

The Dance

When was the last time you slow-danced with someone? It has been nearly 17 years since a full-song slow-dance for me, when we were engaged. More recently, this past summer,…

The Table

Remember this piece, which I wrote at the beginning of my new job with a crew of primarily men? It still holds, but let me tell you that too much…