This is my Male Counsel, one of my favourite humans in the entire world. We dated very briefly in Uni, and quickly discovered we were better friends than more. We…

I clearly don’t believe a fucking word of what’s being said here. It might be one of my favourite pictures ever, my friend took it because he knew what was…

Do you know what you want in a partner? Even if you’re married, maybe especially if you’re married, do you know what you want in a partner? It’s taken me a…

What you can’t really see is that the blossoms have ranunculus among them, which is my favourite flower and it’s in its proper season. What’s important is that they remembered…

Last night, I sat on the porch and watched four deer play on the lake beneath the full moon. I’ve lightened this photo so you can see two of them;…

It’s in Virgo, near the South node and is the first in a couple of decades. It won’t happen again until 2048 – a full lunar eclipse meeting a Blood…

My first love was architecture, and it was the art to which I thought I would commit the rest of my life, but the world moved me away to things…

Since the ce@$ef!re, I have been processing everything from late 2023. I am tired. Today is the day I have to put some of the weight down. I haven’t published…

white of her eyes, winter landscape pupils, starless night skin bare, the desert’s incorruptible honesty and once she tugged at my eyelashes drawing this gaze to the way a woman…

Hi everyone. Turns out that some of you couldn’t access my site earlier today. Sorry about that; I didn’t block anyone, though I do agree with my girl Julie up…

A very unusual thing happened recently, which took me by surprise. Sitting with a group, I turned to someone and made the casual observation that they have not yet integrated…

Editorial note 1: The following is something I originally published on March 3, 2024 and holy fu(k everything which has transpired since, but especially 19 days later. That all aside,…

Since publishing The Shelter of Conversion, I’ve received a surprising amount of emails asking How people convert to Islam. I’ve responded to all of them but thought it would be…

  Speaking of broads… Some scientists posit that women experience life events more intensely, leading to better memory encoding, while others speculate that the neural basis of memory formation differs…

A shirt which I wear proudly reads Assata is welcome here. I learned her, Malcolm, Ali, Hooks, Morrison, and Fanon in my teenage years while looking for my identity. Love revolutionary,…

This lovely art work is by Kelly Marcelle Malka and it was sent to me by a beauty of a heart who said it looked like something I might write…

Who could you have become? Who could you have become but fought not to? So much time is spent celebrating our wins – what we have achieved, and what we…

Are you a glass half full or empty kind of person? I imagine if you’ve lived here for long enough, you must be a glass half full, or you’re hoping…

I spent the week tucked away in the warmth of a beloved. They have been through it. The absolute worst of it, in fact. Since before COVID, bad decision after…

The Sufi tradition is focussed on developing and deepening a personal relationship with God through both self-knowledge and self-inquiry. Rumi(nation) is therefor a very natural part of existing on this…

For my fiftieth, the gift of learning a new language with which I’ve always been in love – music. Oud, when I was younger, as it’s the melody of ancestors…

3am conversation endings about what inspires me to write – several of the new pieces of late were written very differently over the course of the summer, but I needed…

Editorial note: This piece is a hundred different dots connected through one individual – the Healing One. I eventually mention them, near the end. I am writing to navigate and…

Preamble: For those new here, salaat is the Arabic word for the physically defined movements and recitations which Muslims complete five times a day, whereas du3aas are the personal asks…

She’s one of the closest sisters I have. Fifteen years ago when Sophia was born, I asked if she would raise her to call me Khalto which is the Arabic…

I’m fifty. Thank you for sticking around, friends, and for all of your support throughout the years. This has been my most transformative one yet. AlhamduliLaah. ————— Comments closed

Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the genocide, though May 15th was the 76th anniversary of the illegal occupation of my homeland, quickly turned to apartheid, annexation, settler colonialism,…

The man who was unkind to you is not your soul mate. The man who dropped you the moment it became difficult is not your soul mate. The man who…

“Everything hurts,” I wrote. Since June 23rd, exactly. I have been living inside of grief, endless and without oxygen. I don’t shy away from any emotion; instead, I sit next…

Every single thing roots back to this point: all things stem from love, or a lack thereof. For self, for lovers, for situations such as work, and friendships. I’d been…

I’m still incapable of seeing anyone whose politics I’m not fully aware of. They came in from NY, en route to Nairobi. I adore M (the bright light two people…

That’s my girl Alia. Brown girl magic through and through and through. One of the beloveds; one of the very few who knows every inch of my world. We don’t…

Over the course of 48 hours, I’ve had three people think I’m a Scorpio. In the past year, two others guessed the same; one of whom has become very important…

“If people knew half of your history and how you’ve just been naturally protected in the past, they’d know that the Divine is what’s protecting you. And they just wouldn’t…

I am an open book. But most men can’t read. I don’t want a gentleman. I want a man whose faced his shadow and incorporated it into his open spaces….

My first cold in three years last week. Sick as a dog, I stayed away from everyone for 11 days (though at the 9th day mark, I did meet a…

Stunning work by Eloy Bida. 2024 continues to confirm itself as one of my most uncomfortable years. Every month, there has been a specific date or two seared into my…

Chimene told me this story while I was shadowboxing my own pain in 2018. Then, as I do today, I call these War Stories shared by women in our healing, a…

There is no puritanical under or overtones in our religion. But it certainly exists in the patriarchy, and in orthodoxy both in service of men, to the detriment of women….