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Category Archives: Mindful Relationships

That time I found someone repulsive

“Human emotions are most directly influenced by smells that act directly into the brain. Your scent or pheromone signature determines, to a very great extent, how persons respond to you…

The Calm Within: Dewey Bozella

If you are unfamiliar with this beautiful man’s story, please take the necessary 11 minutes to watch this and learn from it. Love and light to you each and all…

Know-It-All: “She ripped my heart out of my nose”

Hey Prolific Immigrant, My best friend told me to write this because she reads you. She’s sitting next to me and wants me to start this by saying “she ripped…

Secret Loves

I remember being in University and keeping my then boyfriend a Secret Love. I now know that I was doing it because I wasn’t interested in him in the way…

Girl In A Storm

I have already mentioned to you my Nutmeg Days, but have not sat down to write about the days which leave me feeling like the woman in this photo, without…

Secrets

I need to tell you, right now This may in fact be a psychosis, not sure yet. If something happens, I really do need to tell you because Sharing Is…

“Talk doesn’t cook rice”

One of the best (Chinese) proverbs ever, perhaps. Yesterday, my girlfriend and I were talking about boys (not to be confused with the male species as defined here). She mentioned…

Nutmeg Might Crack That Crazy Girl

Honest to God there are days I feel like I am punching myself in the face. Absolutely stupid morning, which started with my drinking the wrong of two lattes (I…

Christmas trees adrift…

The early years after my parents fell out of love with one another and divorced, I didn’t much act out against my mother. One way I did act out is…

Sexual Chemistry and Marty

I am writing a follow-up to Defining ‘Sexual Chemistry’, and so sending you there to read in advance. GODSPEED. Comments closed.

The Monzer Hammer (where there are no second chances)

Let me tell you about that amazing and heart-warming moment between my baba and I when he, well intentioned, took my crushed heart and hammered it like he was on…

Colouring between the lines

Colouring between the lines. It’s never really been my strong suit, emotionally. I am a Libra born under a Scorpio something (moon or sun, I don’t exactly know). Any Reader…

Know-It-All: Evil Step Mothers

Editorial Note: I have witnessed first-hand step-mums who have done their best and tried their hardest and plowed through to the best of their ability and strength…only to be met…

There’s a rumor it’s raining men, so I burnt my umbrellas

For most of my life, I understood the level at which I should expect to be treated by those in my life, and could demand it in return because I…

Happy Valentine’s Day

Hia! Valentine’s Day alone? Yes, please! As a Singleton, I am really excited about other peoples relationships, while I hang out with my mum, and same sex non romantic girlfriend….

“Why are you single?”

Is one of my favourite questions to field. When was the last time this question was put to a man? Think about that for second… Right. That’s what I thought….

Relationship advice for men + women who hate one another

I was recently going through a friend’s bookshelf and among a deeply disturbing volume of this genre’s nonsense, I stumbled upon: Why Men Marry Bitches: A woman’s guide to winning…

Perfect mornings are drenched in rain

Several years back, Alisa & Ryan were married at Lake Placid. Baby Jane and I stayed at the Trail Head’s Inn in the Bigelow Room, then owned and run by a young couple…

The day I hid in a bush. Seriously.

 I loved him ferociously.  Else, I would have never stood inside of a thorny bush to spy on him.  Maybe I would have done this and thought it normal if…

Four rules for heartbreak

No one can break your heart. That’s my starting point and it’s the only honest point of self empowerment. No one breaks our hearts, but rather, we allow our hearts…

The bottom line doesn’t make him a d.ck

Every time you speak, he will tell you how happy he is that you called; he’ll tell you how great it is to hear your voice; he’ll tell you he’s sorry he’s…

Quote of this day

The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing How blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere They’re in each other all along….

A Janeism

“So I ate a fish eye. I have been out of the dating loop for so long that I thought doing that might get his attention. It didn’t work.” Comments…

Of Hunnam (a.k.a. What makes a man sexy?)

I recently purchased for the first time ever, Men’s Fitness magazine. Coincidentally, this was the cover: If you have been reading me long enough, you know I have two types:…

From Paris, with (much) Love

Dear Readers, I frequent too many a café while traveling. Once more, I write to you from a coffee shop, only this time I am in Paris on a street…

The Shut-Off Valve

I just sent my friend Yusuf the following bit of advice: Just remember that making a new potential partner pay for someone else’s asshatery hurts both you and the new one. …

A word of caution to some men

On behalf of a very large group of women who are too shy to express the following, please note that the root of this entry is a conversation with a…

Dear Taylor Kitsch Wearing Saxx Underwear

Hi! It’s been a while, and that’s because I was away in Costa Rica where no one wears plaid, and so I really missed you. It’s kind of official now,…

Austin Wrap-Up

Austin 2000 In 2000, Natasha and I visited Austin and had an absolutely fantastic time, even though Natasha was nearly killed by a taxi. We were students and on an…

A Love Letter to Baby Jane

You are all quite familiar with Janey. This is her wearing the scarf I knit and sent her way two weeks back – it is ‘The Johnny Scarf’, J not…

Beautiful Rain

I am on the softest and thickest bed buried beneath and inside of warm white sheets. Three walls are pale orange. One wall is a window. There is only one…

Not speaking in either the past unreal conditional or the future unreal conditional (as present tense is best)

The following is a conversation I had with a friend on Facebook; I have deleted her name for reasons of privacy. To facilitate your reading of this, please note that…

Final Notes on NYC

.1. Because when I think of Unions, it seems a propos that NYC come to mind. .2. Stare at one spot on the tracks; as soon as there’s movement in…