web analytics

MahaMonday: Lonely Ramadan

At Chai Latte Diaries, I am asked how to deal with the often times challenging days of Ramadan and the loneliness they might carry within them:“Ramadan is a time of…

On potential and the ideal man

I believe in the possibility and potential of love, experienced through the unspoken pull of bodies toward one another, shock-waves physically lit up making us incapable of maintaining eye-contact for…

Laughter is the world’s top WMD

This baby has either just spied a nipp!e (this same expression he will carry with him for the rest of his life), or is laughing. Either way, he is edible…

Moving to be with your partner; how far would you go, ho?

A former colleague recently spent some time in my office telling me about her new piece. I shall call this friend ‘Green’. Piece resides in Texas, and so Green’s first (because…

MahaMonday: Slippery slopes

This one got folks riled up. Someone at Chai Latte Diaries asked me if he should ask her out again, a year after she said no. Me, I couldn’t see…

The Love Fetish

“Let the lover be disgraceful, crazy, absentminded. Someone sober will worry about things going badly. Let the lover be.” -Rumi Last week, I was chatting with a friend about the…

MahaMonday: Chemistry + break-up

At Elle Beaver, I’m asked for advice on how to handle and get over a bad break-up: “When she comes out of this, please remind her to open her heart…

Love on Venice Blvd

After an incredible couple of hours of faith and music filled conversation over lunch at Urth Caffe, I had to make my way home and so chose to walk along…

Maha Mondays: Speaking to strangers but not being creepy

This week at Chai Latte Diaries I was asked how it is that I am so full of hot air. Only, it sounded a lot nicer than that because it…

Building and Maintaining Trust

Trust between partners — aside from top-notch sexuals, humour, and respect — is a fundamental pillar in any solid relationship. It is among the few things which, once broken, renders…

Maha Mondays: Flirting & Mommas

On May 19 at CLD, this hilarious seeker of advice wants to know how to flirt so she no longer has to hide behind coffee cups: “…the answer will be…

1st time I saw a man’s fun-bits

The first time I saw a man’s fun part was in a safe and romantic setting where I was a willing and capable participant. Delete. The first time I saw…

Maha Mondays: A woman asks what’s wrong with me; a man asks what’s wrong with women…

At Chai Latte Diaries, one women is struggling to find the purpose of her life while in tandem emotionally self-cutting: “From my extensive scientific research (through my Facebook Timeline), I…

On the audacity of having an opinion

Originally published on March 5, 2014. I was recently reminded that once upon an ex friendship, I was told that I have opinions. Stop laughing. The intention of his statement was…

Maha Mondays: Distressing colleagues & financial (love) concerns

At Elle Beaver, a writer doesn’t know what to do when asked to team up another time: “You will have to be frank and by that, I mean telling her…

Submissions: It’s Only Love

I held one of my dear and beloved friends, Naomi K. Lewis, hostage and forced her to listen to my idea for a collection of stories. Then I gripped my…

Maha Mondays: Harassment in the workplace

At Chai Latte Diaries, a woman asks how to deal with harassment in her new place of work: “You need to be okay with your own terminology: You are being “defensive”…

Peanuts

#31FunnyStati** 2008. A conversation. Snippet from a recent conversation in my life: Friend: “That’s how peanuts grow.” Maha: “Peanuts ‘grow’?” Friend: “They grow beneath.” Maha: “Beneath the sky?” Friend: “Beneath…

Don’t write checks your body can’t / won’t / never ever had the intention of cashing

Two caveats: I very much believe in ‘He’s just not that into you’. For all intents and purposes, almost all of the men of topic below, they have displayed extreme…

Maha Mondays: Online chatting monogamy & public speaking

At Chai Latte Diaries, Bro A spends a couple of minutes having a conversation with a woman online on a dating site. The same woman who his Bro B thinks…

We all have one; what’s yours?

Indulgence, that is; flowers are mine. I buy flowers every week and when I have someone over who asks what they should bring, I say flowers. Always, it is flowers….

Friends, only present to share in our misery

What is that saying about knowing who our friends are in bad times? I’m not so sure about that, anymore. Or, at least, I believe there is a footnote to…

Maha Mondays: More iron than velvet, this week

For Chai Latte Diaries and Elle Beaver advice columns – please be advised that I have neither admin nor edit rights to either their FB pages or their websites. Additionally,…


10 year anniversary & Min Fami

Today is this home’s 10 year anniversary. Yeah, it’s as unbelievable to me as it is to you, my seven readers. Last night, I participated in my first ever panel…


I use you; you use me?

  (I’ve said this before, but I will remind you: don’t ever engage a writer unless you’re ready to become their subject matter.) PSA: You don’t get to use people…

Maha Mondays: Virgins, divorcees, secrets & abuse

At Chai Latte Diaries, we’re discussing the secrets we might keep from our lovers: “Sometimes, while our intentions are good (to tell the truth), and while they should not illicit…

#31FunnyStati – The Challenge

1/31: I’ve already completed a 6 week everyday hot yoga challenge as well as a photo a day for 365 days and this morning, I was trying to come up…

Maha Mondays: ‘Just do it’, the most painful advice possible

No Elle Beaver this week, and the most painful advice I can give someone about unwanted attention, found over at Chai Latte Diaries: “… then you need to alter how…

Why I am not writing as often

Thank you for all of your messages – I am very sorry that I’ve not been doing much writing but only for Maha Mondays at both Elle Beaver and Chai…

Maha Mondays: Avoiding those you’ve bedded & initiating a virtual engagement

Elle Beaver: “Do not text. Texting in such scenarios is for the kindergarten-heads. Call her, tell her you wish to see her to talk about why you have been avoiding…

Maha Mondays: Your Piece’s Bully of a BFF & The Fella Who Wants to Commit (but is stuck in a tree of his own making)

Elle Beaver’s reader is challenged by a dismissive limp-dick boyfriend and his BFF: “…those whose uplifting is sourced from their active debasement of others are the most miserable and insecure…

‘Maha Mondays’: Wedding jitters & friendly texting?

The two new advice columns are live (and every Monday, I will link to them from here). Elle Beaver: I’m getting married and I’m all jittery. What’s up with me?…

‘Maha Mondays’ is live

Find the first column at Elle Beaver, in response to: How Do I Satisfy My Personal and Physical Needs (Quickly)? A snippet: In this same ‘being an adult’ vein, switch up your logic….

Elle Beaver – I am your new favourite Consigliere

Does “Consigliere” have a gender? Either way, I have better hair than Tom Hagen. So, over here on this Elle Beaver intro page you’ll find the details about my new gig. They…

On Intuition: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” -Albert…

Know-It-All: How can I be happier, considering my history?

Dear Maha, I am not clinically depressed or unhappy, its just that I feel like my “normal” happy baseline is lower than others. I don’t feel joy or excitement the…

Imagine if we were swans?

Editorial Note: Originally published on 2012/04/06. ——————– We’d croak when our partner died. No fun. Two days ago, I was discussing soul mates with my friend. Whether we believed there…


December’s (not so gentle) lessons

December has proven an interesting and challenging month. From it, I am blessed to carry into the new year three life lessons. First. Trust only my gut instinct. Nothing, absolutely…

Wedding RINGS have dislodged me

Editorial Note #1:This article was originally published 11/11/02. I am currently on holiday and unless titled Dispatches, then what you are reading was scheduled for publication in advance of my…

Dispatch #2: Jills

Readers, I would like for you to please meet Jills, this photo of her and I taken at one of my favourite London dining rooms, The Anchor & Hope (found…